The Feminine Is Too Much...

The Feminine has been told she is too much. And honestly She probably is. Because the inverse of this statement is that the Masculine has not been enough.

Not enough to meet her power.

Not enough to hold her emotions.

Not enough to carry her truth.

Not enough to sense your own feelings.

Not enough to experience the rawness of your own reactions.

Not enough to own the consequences of your actions.

Not enough to provide focus, direction or vision.

Not enough to say what you mean and mean what you say.

Not enough to hear “No” without being crushed.

Not enough to feel the joy of the tussle, the thrill of the dance of polarity.

Not enough to not cower when she erupts.

Not enough to not pout when you don’t get your way.

Not enough to not hide when your heart is broken.

If the Feminine is too much, it is because the Masculine edge is insufficiently cultivated.

And I’m not saying you created this. I’m not blaming you.

But if we’re honest, Men so often get with a woman because we are emotionally insecure and hope that she will provide that. She won’t. Because she’s not the source of your insecurity. You are.

She’s magical. She’s free. She’s untamed. And she’s powerful. She’s delighted. She’s wild. She’s MORE THAN ENOUGH. She’s everything you want to feel in your self. So what better way to do so, than to own her or possess her. You can’t.

Because you can’t own a wild thing. You can only cage her. Tame her. And make her what you weren’t attracted to in the first place. Your self.

What if we discovered that inner voice of quiet strength and self security before we looked outward?

What if instead of changing, distorting or destroying an other, we became the strongest version of our self, first?

Men, we must discover the Sacred Masculine in ourselves. Active. Assertive. Aggressive. Compassionate. Joyful. Vital. Courageous.

We must embody that strength, if we are ever to hold a lover in the way we desire.

She cannot be your security blanket. She cannot be your identity. You will crush the thing you love and lose what you wished to hold.

If you want to feel alive, fuck till your breathless, and fill the world with your embodied truth, don’t make Her your goal.

There is more than enough finger wagging to go around. We can talk about a lack of initiation moments, a lack of organic tribe, a lack of reinforcement. But whatever the reason...the choice is ours now...

Will we do the work to cultivate the Sacred Masculine? Will we hone these edges? Will we become more?

I know my answer. Sign me up. You too?+++