sep 11-nov 6

A digital intimacy intensive building the kind of relationships that take you higher, let you see further, and bring you more joy in life.

 

NOW ENROLLING EARLY BIRDS!!!

Love shouldn’t be a mystery

You don’t FALL into love. You step into it. You co-create it with someone else. Conscious connections require effort. They are an act of divine surrender and impassioned will. The truth is—it doesn’t just happen….You MAKE LOVE.

The wound is created in relationship, and we believe that’s where it’s also often healed. Each one of us feels a deep need to belong—to love and be loved. Yet we often feel alone and lonely. Our connections struggle to ignite. They burn out quickly. We lose the original spark. Or, they leave us gutted by their intensity and inferno.

Love is a kind of skill though. We learn it as we go. It’s about cultivating the inner resources of authenticity, imagination, experiment, and the willingness to take a leap of faith—a risk! Love actually requires us to stop playing it safe.

Honestly? That’s why we created INDULGENCE. We wanted to create the kind of community the incubated knowing HOW to build the kind of relationships that would make us feel good about who we are, and what we’re doing. We wanted a container that left you knowing more about love, more about your self, and more about the kind of connections you want to build—and deserve to be in.

 

Many people imagine that love should just…HAPPEN! Sadly, this really isn’t the case. Mature love isn’t exactly natural. Why? Because WE aren’t natural. We have been so conditioned out of our own instincts, so patterned by our past and so programmed by others, that when we get with some one else, we really have no clue how to behave.

We end up looking a bit like domesticated lions in a Zoo. Prowling around, waiting for a zookeeper to toss us dinner. Warming up microwaved interpretations of what love should be, and what we think we deserve based on what we’ve known.

What we so deeply need is to get out of our own comfort zones and place ourselves into an experience where we confront the edges of wildness. Conscious relating exists to practice becoming natural again.

Kristi and I created INDULGENCE for individuals, whether in a relationship currently, or exploring connections, to feel fully empowered to stretch out of their comfort zones, and take the risk of deep and meaningful relationships.

 Listen to what other’s have said about Rainier & Kristi:

“We had done everything. Big coaching programs. Therapy. You name it. Nothing was so powerful as the work we did with Rainier & Kristi. This changed our relationship for the better, and it changed us as individuals. Thank you! Tom & Eve

“These two do a wonderful job peeling back the onion of relationship from a very personal place with real world experience shared between two lovers and partners...” DJ.

“This program and container were so powerful for me. I was able to learn new skills and then practice them directly with others. I LOVED meeting everyone and really getting to know my self better through them.” Ruth

“This course has given me hope again about relationships. And honestly it has helped me navigate the radical act of relating.” Ashley

"This time with Rainier was such a gift because I got to encounter the Masculine in a way that left me feeling deeply seen. It enabled me to have difficult conversations and get different results than I have before. I've started to experience a new possibility of deeper self acceptance. So many of the truths I've already learned in my own spiritual journey came together and I feel close to summit--bringing my sovereignty into the world. Free of shame. Free of fear. Embodying love." Crystal

“I learned so much about awareness—just letting go of my self-judgement and shame— and how to stop being a people pleaser. I just want to cry. I have never felt so much love.” Brian

What a beautiful couple sharing intimate and important, real life stuff. The authenticty and integrity of their values and how they have gotten here was felt to my core. Huge takeaways to incoporate into my life! Dusty

Indulgence is designed to teach you how to…

  • Be a conscious self in your connection with others.

  • Identify and name your own emotions, needs and desires.

  • Deeply connect with your personal story and history as a path to move into a new future. 

  • Grow in your ability to accept yourself and authentically show up in relationships.

  • Lean into creating more opportunities for expansion and expression in your relationships.

  • The interplay of our internal systems such as child and parent, critic and saboteur, victim and rescuer that keep us stuck relationally.

  • Communication techniques to enhance meaning and deeper connection.

  • Safely communicate your fantasies and curiosities with your partner.

  • Practice getting comfortable with sharing your needs while understanding another's "world",

  • The skill of radical acceptance and learning how to love each part of who you are.

  • How to communicate your wants and desires clearly in relationship.

  • Discover how to deal with past pain and shame connected to your sexuality.

What is INDULGENCE?

This is a 8 week online group mastermind hosted by Rainier Wylde and Kristi Born for women and men who want to discover their own deepest self while deepening their relationships. It’s a chance to learn the building blocks of creating intimate union with others, and to begin creating the kind of connection you’ve been yearning for.

Here’s how we’ll do it:

Every week you’ll receive on demand training giving you greater insight as you complete self-paced assignments.

We meet as a group, weekly. During these times we facilitate an intimate conversation about learning how to hear your own inner voice, communicating your desires, breaking out of old roles, active listening and direct dialogue, how we can engage relational shadow work, clearing out past resentments, using relationships as spiritual path and learning how to build a joyful and thriving romantic life. We also answer your questions and give lots of individualized time to look at what’s coming up in your lives as you engage the work of relating.

Indulgence is created to help you design the kind of relationships that bring you vitality and joy.

Rainier Wylde and Kristi Born are dedicated to bring you more than steps to a finding yourSELF and vibrant connections but a way of being. Laying down the old stories and identifying the obstacles that keep many from living exuberantly. This digital emersion is an "all in" approach with exclusive content and practical skills taught each week. Repetition and intention create new pathways for growth and expansion.   

No matter what your relationship status, you will benefit uncovering your relational patterns, communicating your needs, expressing your desires, and find healing from the past. You will begin to step into the future with new found curiosity and enthusiasm. Designing the kind of relationship you want!

 

 What this includes…

  • On Demand Digital Content

    • Every week you receive access to high quality video teachings and dynamic assignments helping actively take on self-mastery.

  • Live Group Sessions with Q&A

    • We meet weekly for 60 minutes to share your experiences, and have your questions answered.

  • Private SLACK Group

    • During the week you will be apart of an ongoing chat with Rainier, Kristi and the other Indulgent souls as you take on the challenges of living fully and deeply in the here and now.

  • Re-Play of Calls

    • If you have to miss a live meeting you’ll receive the replay the next day and be able to watch all the action.

  • VIP Sessions with Rainier & Kristi

    • A space limited exclusive offering to those who want to have more direct engagement with Rainier & Kristi for added insight and inspiration

This is for you if…

 

  • You struggle with building or maintaining new relationships

  • It’s difficult for you to know what you want or to ask for it

  • you want to learn how to commit deeply

  • you believe relationships can be a spiritual path

  • you’re ready to learn PRACTICAL tools for relating and want to apply them to your life.

  • you’ve sacrificed authenticity for acceptance in romance.

  • YOU CRAVE PROVEN MASTERY AND TIME TESTED STRATEGIES.

  • YOU’RE COMMITTED TO GROWING in your relational skills and will take the time to utilize them.

  • YOU’RE PREPARED FOR EXPONENTIAL GROWTH in relationships

 
 

This is NOT for you if…

 

  • YOU’RE NOT READY TO INVEST YOUR TIME, FINANCES, OR EFFORT INTO YOUR SELf or relating.

  • YOU’RE TOO BUSY TO DEVELOP relational skills

  • YOU’RE NOT WILLING TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR your connections AND THE LIFE YOU’RE CURRENTLY LIVING.

  • YOU’RE ACTIVELY STRUGGLING WITH AN ACUTE MENTAL HEALTH CRISIS AND ARE NOT BEING SUPPORTED BY A TRAINED MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONAL.

  • YOU’RE WANTING TO BLAME OTHERS, MAKE EXCUSES, OR JUST HOPE FOR THE “DELICIOUSNESS OF AGREEMENT” IN HAVING OTHERS HEAR YOUR STORY.

  • YOU’RE ALREADY ASCENDED, YOU’VE GOT IT FIGURED OUT, AND DON’T WANT SUPPORT ON YOUR JOURNEY.

  • YOU’RE NOT WILLING TO HAVE DIRECT FEEDBACK AND APPLIED TEACHING IN YOUR LIFE.

 

What Indulgence looks like…

Week 1: Knowing Your Role

Discover how the ROLE that you play in relationships keeps you from experiencing the love you desire. You will unpack your history and open yourself up to “waking up” to the person you have been in connection to, the person you want to be and attract.

 
 

Week 2: Learning Your Truth

Knowing your SELF takes time. You will slow down enough to experience inner dialogue, identify how your body houses emotions and makes interpretations based on the past. Learning your vulnerability factors and communicating your needs will help you connect authentically.

 
 

Week 3: The Art of Noticing

You know the feeling when you are seen and heard in relationships. It feels SO GOOD. Often our relationships become a barren land of invalidation and ignorance. Time to learn the skills of tuning in, stepping up, and slowing down. The richness of relationships comes with the art of noticing.

 
 

Week 4: How to Give & To Receive

“Sliding door moments.” These are the places in life where you will learn to lean into paying attention to your relationships—and how it will enhance your connection. Finding the antidote to our unconcscious behaviors is all about awareness and repetition.

 
 

Week 5: Releasing Resentments

Our own insecurities and fear can lock us out of the love we desire. When resentments pile up or hidden truths are unexpressed we are no longer available for honest and curious connection. Learning to take responsibility for our choices opens us up to imagining a new future.

 
 

Week 6: Embracing Playfulness

After addressing insecurities and unacknowledged shadows, we are able to enter into the journey of openness versed on deep interests and curiosity. Digging deeper in the art of playfulness, and providing you tools to participate in any level of connecting, frees you to connect in soul-giving ways.

 
 

Week 7: Intimate Communion

Sex begins with intimacy. Having intimate knowledge of yourself. Knowing who you are as a sexual being. Identifying your desires, needs, and wants. Discovering how past programming and experiences hinder your ability to be a fully sexual and empowered being.

 
 

Week 8: Pure Imagination

Integrate your personal identity with your sexual identity. Express your curiosities, fantasies and places you want to explore. Accept yourself and a potential parter as you both come alive to the passion that you long for.

 
 

 questions you may have

  • A: The video sessions are self-paced and released weekly beginning Sept 11. The first live session is September 18 and the last is November 6. The meetings last for 90 minutes from 5pm PST-6:30pm PST. Don’t worry! These are recorded just in case you can’t catch the live interaction!

  • A: They are, and will be sent to you so that you can work through them at your own pace. That having been said, most people find that they get a lot more out of being present and engaging. But if you miss one—you’ll be fine.

  • A: We will spend 8 direct hours LIVE engaging with your questions, dialoguing through your experiences, and interacting with your personal stories. That’s a LOT of support! You’ll also have the ability to sign up for exclusive 1x1 times together with them.

  • A: No. Its not. This isn’t for you if you’re experience an acute mental health crisis and just want a non-clinical approach. Its also not a replacement for church, synagogue, temple, or going home for Thanksgiving or Christmas. If there’s something that you want or need specifically—its best to seek those things out directly.

  • A: If you cancel more than a week prior to the the first of the program you will receive your money back, minus a $150 deposit fee.

    If you cancel in the first week of the program after the start date, you will be refunded half of your investment, $500.

    After the second week, should you cancel for any reason you are on the line for the full cost of the program.

    Please see the full refund policy here.

  • A: For those who want to get the most out of their experience—YES! There are break-out rooms, hot-seat moments, and real time Q and A’s. Of course it’s all up to you—but for my money’s worth, I’d go all in.

  • A: Listen—I don’t want money to get in your way. But I also want you to have skin in the game. While there aren’t any official scholarships or discounts, I want you to directly ask if you think you’d like to be apart of this, but absolutely cannot afford it. I’ll be glad to discuss your need on a case by case basis and see what we can do!

  • A: You pay in two installment’s in the sign up.

  • This is for everyone! For people who are in a connection and for those who are looking for one. Just bring your whole self to the room!

 

about Rainier & Kristi

Kristi Born, is a therapist and coach who specializes in relationships and who teaches courses on Human Sexuality and Couples & Family Therapy Techniques.  Rainier Wylde holds a Masters degree in psychology  and is a writer, coach, and the author of Amazon Bestseller, "As You Are.” They are a married couple dedicated to pulling back the curtains on the modern landscape of love. Together they host the celebrated podcast "Love Like Hell," where they use riveting storytelling to talk about and teach through relational principles. They have mentored many couples and individuals to bring deep freedom and lasting change.