The Alchemy

of Attachment

mastering the elements of a secure connection.

Here’s how it goes: One of you wants more. Then one of you runs. Maybe you’ve been the person who gets scared. Something takes over. It’s like muscle memory. You just find yourself pushing the person you care about away. Or maybe you fall fast. You commit quickly, overlooking all the red flags. And in the end…it hurts more than it helps. Or maybe they were hot and heavy early on, but now, it seems like they’re edging towards the door…You’ve been there. Right? It feels like its a never ending back and forth of hide and seek.

We get it. The bridge between anxious and avoidant attachment styles can challenging. If you've ever felt the pang of longing met with a wall of distance, or the weight of closeness stifling your freedom, you're not alone…

"The Attachment Alchemy" is a course designed to turn these contrasting styles into a harmonious and fulfilling bond. You don’t have lock each other out. You actually can transform your connections into the key you’ve been looking for. By learning the hidden alchemy of attachment, you can transform heartache into deep connection. You don’t have to play games any more. You get to make up your own rules. It just takes some insight. It requires awareness. But once you master it, you really can have the kind of relationships you want. No matter what the relational strategies you’re dealing with, in your self, or others.

FULL DISCLOSURE: Your guides on this journey, Rainier Wylde and Kristi Born, embody these attachment styles themselves, offering not just theory, but experience and deep understanding. They’ve lived it! They’ve literally walked this same road. And they’ve found a way, not just to make it work—but to make it flourish. Combining years of theoretical understanding, with practical insight, who better to peel back the layers, than a couple who was weathered the storm? That’s why we designed this course!

Because here’s the truth…

You can be anxious or avoidant, AND still have a beautiful relationship grounded in deep connection, mutual support, and passion.

That’s good news, right?

do you experience…

A Constant Hunger for Closeness: fearing that love might slip away, and feeling unsettled when your partner seeks space.Sometimes you want connection so much, it pushes people away?

A Craving For Independence: feeling suffocated when things get too close, yet desiring a meaningful connection.

The Cycle of Misunderstanding: Finding yourselves trapped in a loop of miscommunication, where one's need for intimacy clashes with the other's need for space.

Turbulence Over Mismatched Styles: The struggle of an anxious partner’s pursuit feeling like pressure to an avoidant one, creating a cycle of chase and retreat in your relationship.

Confusion Over Emotional Needs: Difficulty in articulating what you need from your partner or understanding their needs, leading to miscommunication and dissatisfaction.

The Pull of Past Patterns: A history of relationships that seem to repeat the same frustrating dynamics, leaving you feeling stuck and unsure how to break the cycle.

Fears of Enmeshment or Abandonment: An internal battle between the fear of losing yourself in a relationship and the fear of being left, which keeps you from fully engaging in or committing to your partner.

Resonance and Dissonance: Moments when you feel deeply connected followed by times of disconnection, leading to an emotional rollercoaster that leaves both partners exhausted.

The Desire for Depth: A yearning for a deeper emotional connection that seems just out of reach, with moments of closeness followed by withdrawal.

This workshop includes…

ARE YOU WANTING….

to learn how to ride the waves of love’s most insecure storms? to find fulfillment in connections that aren’t always easy, but are deeply meaningful to you? to learn more about yourself—your own inner strategies in relationship, and how to avoid unhelpful patterns or repeat performances? If so…then this really is for you.

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